Life can sometimes seem difficult and unfair. It can leave us feeling like we have been dealt a bad hand and asking, “How can personal development help me?”
This is especially true in the case of adoption. More often than not, adoptees feel insecure, unlovable and not good enough because the one person in the world who is supposed to love and care for us the most relinquished us to the care of others for one reason or another.
For adoptees, it can be easy to feel like the entire situation is futile. Most adoptees, whether consciously or subconsciously, struggle with some level of feeling abandoned, and may also feel powerless and hopeless. Adoption is trauma and can leave an adoptee struggling with low self-esteem, self-worth, self-love, self-respect and self-value.
So, how can personal development help us deal with being adopted? There are many ways.
Whether we hire a life coach or therapist, read self-help books, attend seminars, classes or courses, or utilize other modalities such as hypnosis, meditation and Reiki, every step we take as we embark on our own unique journey can benefit us in some, if not all of the following ways:
- Learn how to take control of and responsibility for our lives by actively choosing to change some of our thoughts, beliefs, behaviors, patterns or circumstances, with the intention of feeling better about ourselves and our lives.
- Learn how to forgive others including our natural parents for giving us up and our adoptive parents if we experienced anything less than a loving and happy childhood.
- Learn how to forgive ourselves for thinking and believing that we are anything less than.
- Learn how to uncover some of the feelings and challenges we may not even be aware of, thus giving us the opportunity to heal.
- Learn how to increase our levels of self-esteem.
- Learn how to increase our self-confidence.
- Learn how to increase our levels of self-love.
- Realize and believe that we are good enough.
- Learn how to release our past traumas.
- Improve our ability to create and maintain healthy, loving relationships. (Many adoptees tend to have difficulties in this area.)
- Learn how to change our perception from victim to victor. This is where we let go of the blame game.
- Understand and realize our true worth.
- Learn how to increase our levels of self-respect and self-value.
- Learn how to manifest positive change in our lives.
- Learn how to step into our power.
- Discover increased overall levels of happiness and joy.
By no means is this a complete list of ways in which personal development can help adoptees deal with being adopted. The list is literally endless.
In case you are wondering how I know this, I am an adoptee who has spent the past 25 years on my own personal growth journey.
Even though I have a wonderful family and had a happy childhood, the unseen effects of adoption caught up with me when I was in my late 20s and early 30s.
I went to a weekend seminar, thinking it would help me build my home-based business. Little did I know that I was having my very first experience with personal growth.
That seminar was the Landmark Forum, and as a result of that weekend, I realized that I had spent my entire life up until that point feeling like I wasn’t good enough. I didn’t like myself, let alone love myself.
Today, I can look in the mirror, smile and say, “Paula, I love you,” and truly mean it and feel it. I feel whole and complete. I am happy and am living the life of my dreams. Of course, life is a journey. There will always be situations or circumstances that come up which offer another opportunity for greater learning, growth and healing. And when these types of situations come up, I am ready for them.
If you are adopted, struggling, and wondering how personal development can help you deal with being adopted, contact me directly. I have founded my purpose and passion in helping people just like you reach a place of true inner peace and happiness.